Disconnection Audit: Pattern Series

You know something is off. Now find out why.

A video course for men who took the Disconnection Audit, and are ready to understand what's actually driving the distance.

THE PROBLEM

Most men who feel disconnected in their marriages aren't indifferent.

They're paying attention. They're trying things. They're showing up.

And somehow, nothing seems to land.

That's not a character flaw. That's a pattern. And patterns don't change until you can see them clearly.

This course shows you exactly what's happening — and why.

PRODUCT NOTE - This is a self-paced video course. You'll receive instant access to all five lessons as soon as your purchase is complete. Watch on your own schedule, at your own pace. No app required.

What's Inside

The five patterns you'll explore

The Overdrive Loop

Why working harder and doing more keeps creating distance instead of connection

The Emotional Fog

What's actually happening when conversations feel overwhelming and words stop coming

The Trapped Feeling

Why certain conversations feel like there's no good way out, and how to change that dynamic

The Misfire Pattern

Why what you're trying to communicate keeps landing as criticism or blame

The Silent Ledger

How unspoken needs and unaddressed frustrations quietly build into resentment

This is for you if

You've taken the Disconnection Audit and want to understand what your results actually mean.

You've tried to fix things in your marriage and can't figure out why nothing seems to land.

You're the kind of man who needs to understand something before he can change it.

You're not looking for scripts or surface-level advice, you want to know what's actually driving the distance.

You're willing to look honestly at your own patterns, not just your wife's.

About Alyssa

Alyssa Stines, LCSW

Founder of The Intimacy Upgrade. Licensed clinical social worker with over seventeen years of experience working with men navigating disconnection in their marriages. The patterns in this course come directly from that work.

You already know something needs to change.