The Disconnection Audit

Start With Clarity

First Name

Last Name

Email *

I try to quickly fix issues so we can move on. *

I focus on solving problems more than staying with emotions. *

I take responsibility for keeping things calm, even when I’m exhausted. *

I believe that if I do enough or agree enough, things should improve. *

After a long workday, I feel pressure to come straight home and help. *

I feel confused when my effort doesn’t translate into sex. *

When conversations turn emotional, I don’t know what to say.

I struggle to tell the difference between what I feel and what I think.

I don’t see the point of talking about feelings if nothing changes. *

I avoid conflict at home whenever possible, even if it means things don’t get addressed. *

I go quiet or disengage to keep things from escalating. *

I’ve been told I am emotionally unavailable even when I’m trying. *

Emotional conversations feel like a loss of control or autonomy. *

I feel pressured to engage emotionally before I’ve had time to decompress. *

I worry emotional conversations won’t end once they start. *

I feel like I have very little time that’s actually mine. *

I shut down more when I feel criticized or cornered at home *

Once emotional conversations start, they feel overwhelming and hard to exit. *

My partner says she feels unheard or alone, even though I’m trying hard. *

I’m told I’m defensive when I believe I’m being reasonable. *

What I intend to communicate often lands differently than I expect. *

I rely on logic or explanations when emotions are high. *

I expect emotional conversations to escalate into anger or conflict. *

I feel like nothing I say actually helps. *

I don’t feel appreciated for what I provide or take care of. *

I carry resentment that I rarely talk about. *

Our sex life feels distant, infrequent, or disconnected. *

Intimacy sometimes feels like accommodation rather than desire. *

I feel alone in the relationship even when we’re together. *

I expect myself to handle things without needing support. *