Meet Alyssa

For more than 16 years, I’ve helped men rebuild trust, connection, and intimacy in their marriages, not by urging them to try harder, manage emotions better, or “do more,” but by helping them develop emotional intelligence, regulate their nervous system, and communicate in ways that actually land.

I’m a licensed therapist turned coach with extensive training in trauma and attachment. I’ve worked with men in inpatient treatment and in private practice, helping them navigate everything from emotional shutdown to major relational crises.

Today, my work as a coach focuses exclusively on high-achieving men who feel like they’re walking on eggshells at home, men who shut down or over-function when conversations get tense, and who are exhausted from performing the “right” responses without seeing real change.

This work isn’t about becoming more emotional.
It’s about building the capacity to stay present when it matters most.

Meet Alyssa

I have 16+ years working with men and relationships. I am a licensed therapist turned coach whose background includes training on trauma and attachment. I help men stay grounded in difficult moments.

For more than 16 years, I’ve helped men rebuild trust, connection, and intimacy in their marriages, not by urging them to try harder, manage emotions better, or “do more,” but by helping them develop emotional intelligence, regulate their nervous system, and communicate in ways that actually land.

I’m a licensed therapist turned coach with extensive training in trauma and attachment. I’ve worked with men in inpatient treatment and in private practice, helping them navigate everything from emotional shutdown to major relational crises.

This work isn’t about becoming more emotional.
It’s about building the capacity to stay present when it matters most.

For more than 16 years, I’ve helped men rebuild trust, connection, and intimacy in their marriages, not by urging them to try harder, manage emotions better, or “do more,” but by helping them develop emotional intelligence, regulate their nervous system, and communicate in ways that actually land.

I’m a licensed therapist turned coach with extensive training in trauma and attachment. I’ve worked with men in inpatient treatment and in private practice, helping them navigate everything from emotional shutdown to major relational crises.

Today, my work as a coach focuses exclusively on high-achieving men who feel like they’re walking on eggshells at home, men who shut down or over-function when conversations get tense, and who are exhausted from performing the “right” responses without seeing real change.

This work isn’t about becoming more emotional.
It’s about building the capacity to stay present when it matters most.

For more than 16 years, I’ve helped men rebuild trust, connection, and intimacy in their marriages, not by urging them to try harder, manage emotions better, or “do more,” but by helping them develop emotional intelligence, regulate their nervous system, and communicate in ways that actually land.

I’m a licensed therapist turned coach with extensive training in trauma and attachment. I’ve worked with men in inpatient treatment and in private practice, helping them navigate everything from emotional shutdown to major relational crises.

Today, my work as a coach focuses exclusively on high-achieving men who feel like they’re walking on eggshells at home, men who shut down or over-function when conversations get tense, and who are exhausted from performing the “right” responses without seeing real change.

This work isn’t about becoming more emotional.
It’s about building the capacity to stay present when it matters most.

Why I do this work

Most of the men I work with are trying incredibly hard to save their marriages. I’ve sat with them in moments of exhaustion and fear — men who care deeply about their partners but feel stuck because no one ever taught them the emotional skills intimate relationships actually require.

I’ve also seen how often therapy becomes a place where they feel misunderstood or outnumbered, as if they’re speaking a different language in the room. Instead of clarity, they leave feeling more confused and more disconnected.

I do this work because I’ve watched what happens when men are finally given a framework that makes sense to them. When they understand why these skills matter and are supported in practicing them, they stop performing the “right” responses and start showing up present. Their partners can feel the difference. Conversations slow down. Defenses soften. Connection becomes possible again.

And in the process, many of these men don’t just repair their marriages — they discover parts of themselves they didn’t know were available, steady, or strong.

This work is about presence, not performance

Why I do this work

Most of the men I work with care deeply about their marriages, but were never taught how to stay emotionally engaged when it matters most.

I've seen what happens when men finally get the language and support that makes sense.

They stop performing.

They start showing up present.

That is when the connection in their marriage starts to change.

What it's like to work with me

My style is direct, warm, and no-nonsense.

I’m not the kind of coach who will gently circle a question until you arrive at an insight on your own. When something isn’t working, I’ll tell you — clearly and respectfully. Then I’ll help you find language that actually reflects what you’re trying to say, or uncover what’s been hard to name in the first place.

What I Won't Do

I won't shame you
I won't blame you
I won't let you stay stuck in guilt or self criticism

What I Will Do

I will help you understand what’s actually happening.
I will intervene when something isn’t working.
I will help you find words that create connection instead of defensiveness.

Instead, I help you understand what’s really happening under the surface — in you, in your partner, and in the patterns between you — and give you practical ways to change it.

This work isn’t about dominance, resignation, or fixing your partner.
It’s about emotional leadership — the kind that creates safety, steadiness, and real connection.

Meet Alyssa

I’m a licensed therapist turned coach with extensive training in trauma and attachment. I’ve worked with men in inpatient treatment and in private practice, helping them navigate everything from emotional shutdown to major relational crises.

Today, my work as a coach focuses exclusively on high-achieving men who feel like they’re walking on eggshells at home, men who shut down or over-function when conversations get tense, and who are exhausted from performing the “right” responses without seeing real change.

This work isn’t about becoming more emotional.
It’s about building the capacity to stay present when it matters most.

Meet Alyssa

Meet Alyssa

I’m a licensed therapist turned coach with extensive training in trauma and attachment. I’ve worked with men in inpatient treatment and in private practice, helping them navigate everything from emotional shutdown to major relational crises.

This work isn’t about becoming more emotional.
It’s about building the capacity to stay present when it matters most.

I’m a licensed therapist turned coach with extensive training in trauma and attachment. I’ve worked with men in inpatient treatment and in private practice, helping them navigate everything from emotional shutdown to major relational crises.

Today, my work as a coach focuses exclusively on high-achieving men who feel like they’re walking on eggshells at home, men who shut down or over-function when conversations get tense, and who are exhausted from performing the “right” responses without seeing real change.

This work isn’t about becoming more emotional.
It’s about building the capacity to stay present when it matters most.

I’m a licensed therapist turned coach with extensive training in trauma and attachment. I’ve worked with men in inpatient treatment and in private practice, helping them navigate everything from emotional shutdown to major relational crises.

Today, my work as a coach focuses exclusively on high-achieving men who feel like they’re walking on eggshells at home, men who shut down or over-function when conversations get tense, and who are exhausted from performing the “right” responses without seeing real change.

This work isn’t about becoming more emotional.
It’s about building the capacity to stay present when it matters most.

Why I do this work

Most of the men I work with are trying incredibly hard to save their marriages. I’ve sat with them in moments of exhaustion and fear — men who care deeply about their partners but feel stuck because no one ever taught them the emotional skills intimate relationships actually require.

I’ve also seen how often therapy becomes a place where they feel misunderstood or outnumbered, as if they’re speaking a different language in the room. Instead of clarity, they leave feeling more confused and more disconnected.

And in the process, many of these men don’t just repair their marriages — they discover parts of themselves they didn’t know were available, steady, or strong.

This work is about presence, not performance

Why I do this work

Most of the men I work with care deeply about their marriages, but were never taught how to stay emotionally engaged when it matters most.

I've seen what happens when men finally get the language and support that makes sense.

They stop performing.

They start showing up present.

That is when the connection in their marriage starts to change.

What it's like to work with me

My style is direct, warm, and no-nonsense.

What I Won't Do

What I Will Do

Instead, I help you understand what’s really happening under the surface — in you, in your partner, and in the patterns between you — and give you practical ways to change it.

This work isn’t about dominance, resignation, or fixing your partner.
It’s about emotional leadership — the kind that creates safety, steadiness, and real connection.

What it's like to work with me

My style is direct, warm, and no-nonsense.

What I Won't Do

What I Will Do

Ready To Start?

You don't need to try harder.

You need clarity.

Meet Alyssa

I’m a licensed therapist turned coach with extensive training in trauma and attachment. I’ve worked with men in inpatient treatment and in private practice, helping them navigate everything from emotional shutdown to major relational crises.

Today, my work as a coach focuses exclusively on high-achieving men who feel like they’re walking on eggshells at home, men who shut down or over-function when conversations get tense, and who are exhausted from performing the “right” responses without seeing real change.

This work isn’t about becoming more emotional.It’s about building the capacity to stay present when it matters most.

Meet Alyssa

Meet Alyssa

I’m a licensed therapist turned coach with extensive training in trauma and attachment. I’ve worked with men in inpatient treatment and in private practice, helping them navigate everything from emotional shutdown to major relational crises.

This work isn’t about becoming more emotional.It’s about building the capacity to stay present when it matters most.

I’m a licensed therapist turned coach with extensive training in trauma and attachment. I’ve worked with men in inpatient treatment and in private practice, helping them navigate everything from emotional shutdown to major relational crises.

Today, my work as a coach focuses exclusively on high-achieving men who feel like they’re walking on eggshells at home, men who shut down or over-function when conversations get tense, and who are exhausted from performing the “right” responses without seeing real change.

This work isn’t about becoming more emotional.It’s about building the capacity to stay present when it matters most.

I’m a licensed therapist turned coach with extensive training in trauma and attachment. I’ve worked with men in inpatient treatment and in private practice, helping them navigate everything from emotional shutdown to major relational crises.

Today, my work as a coach focuses exclusively on high-achieving men who feel like they’re walking on eggshells at home, men who shut down or over-function when conversations get tense, and who are exhausted from performing the “right” responses without seeing real change.

This work isn’t about becoming more emotional.It’s about building the capacity to stay present when it matters most.

Why I do this work

Most of the men I work with are trying incredibly hard to save their marriages. I’ve sat with them in moments of exhaustion and fear — men who care deeply about their partners but feel stuck because no one ever taught them the emotional skills intimate relationships actually require.

I’ve also seen how often therapy becomes a place where they feel misunderstood or outnumbered, as if they’re speaking a different language in the room. Instead of clarity, they leave feeling more confused and more disconnected.

And in the process, many of these men don’t just repair their marriages — they discover parts of themselves they didn’t know were available, steady, or strong.

This work is about presence, not performance

Why I do this work

Most of the men I work with care deeply about their marriages, but were never taught how to stay emotionally engaged when it matters most.

I've seen what happens when men finally get the language and support that makes sense.

They stop performing.

They start showing up present.

That is when the connection in their marriage starts to change.

What it's like to work with me

My style is direct, warm, and no-nonsense.

What I Won't Do

What I Will Do

Instead, I help you understand what’s really happening under the surface — in you, in your partner, and in the patterns between you — and give you practical ways to change it.

This work isn’t about dominance, resignation, or fixing your partner.It’s about emotional leadership — the kind that creates safety, steadiness, and real connection.

What it's like to work with me

My style is direct, warm, and no-nonsense.

What I Won't Do

What I Will Do

Ready To Start?

You don't need to try harder.

You need clarity.

This work isn’t about becoming more emotional.
It’s about building the capacity to stay present when it matters most.

This work isn’t about becoming more emotional.
It’s about building the capacity to stay present when it matters most.

This work isn’t about becoming more emotional.
It’s about building the capacity to stay present when it matters most.

This work isn’t about becoming more emotional.
It’s about building the capacity to stay present when it matters most.

This work isn’t about dominance, resignation, or fixing your partner.
It’s about emotional leadership — the kind that creates safety, steadiness, and real connection.